Do I Really Want to Get My Ex Back?

Right now you’re probably saying to yourself, “I want my ex back” or, “I just want things to go back to the way they were”.

When you’re going through a painful break up it’s really difficult not to get overwhelmed by your emotions.  It’s really tempting to drown your sorrows or head straight for the pizza and chocolate cake. (Or is that just me?)  Now, I wouldn’t want to deny anyone a little comfort food from time to time, but in the long term trying to suppress your feelings won’t get you anywhere.

Acknowledge your emotions, don’t keep trying to push them back down.  It’s ok to feel however you feel, whether that’s regret, anger or depression.  Try not to be self critical or think you should “pull yourself together”.  This is a time to be kind to yourself.

It often helps to write down how you feel.  The process of letting your thoughts pour out on paper can be a great release, although you may not feel 100% better straight away.  Don’t censor yourself, just jot down it all down.  There’s no need to show anyone, ever, so you can say whatever you want.  In fact it’s a good idea to destroy it once it’s been written, just in case.

Reflect on the relationship, acknowledge where things might have gone wrong and consider how you could do things differently in the future. Look at your life as a whole.  Are there different areas that you may have neglected?  By spending time & energy on other aspects of your life you will gain a perspective that it’s so hard to see right now.

Learn to forgive, forgive your ex for their part in the situation and make sure you forgive yourself too.  Make a decision to make a fresh start and leave the past behind you.  Do you really want your ex as part of your future?

If you don’t then I wish you all the very best for the future. Congratulations on making the decision.

If you’re not sure yet then you probably need some more thinking time, reading some other articles will help you.

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